Games have been replayed, books have been re-read, movies and cartoons are already nauseous, and has your home never been so clean? Yes, today this is the case in almost all families around the world. Looking for ideas on what to do in quarantine when you’re already tired of everything?
Start to instill in your child, and at the same time yourself, good habits and qualities. We assure you that you will not have to strain – just live a normal life and use the tips and tools that we offer in this article, based on your own experience.
A few words about the main thing …
The world is changing – we are gradually getting closer and becoming one big society. The goal of everything that is happening now is to realize that the earth is our common home, and everyone’s mission is to take care of it and preserve it for future generations. And for this, you need to change the way of life and educate in yourself and in children about awareness and humanity.
This is about taking care of your health, and educating your personality, and relationships with yourself and the world around you. Self-isolation is the best time to work on all this, since then there will be no time again.
Now think about what habits and qualities you wanted to instill in your child? What do you think is the most important in life? Have you thought? Excellent.
But so that efforts do not go down the drain, first we will dwell on the principles of education and the formation of correct habits in children.
How to Instill Good Habits in a Child Correctly?
Stick to the simple rules below, and there will be less conflict and misunderstanding between you and your children. And working on good habits will be perceived as part of everyday life.
RULE 1. “Do Not Push”
Forget about the words “you have to”, “it is necessary”, “because I said so” and do not invent horror stories like “if you disobey, then an evil person will come and take you with him”. These are non-working methods of education. More precisely, they work, but in the opposite direction. Modern children are different and you need to learn to negotiate with them.
RULE 2. “Lead by Example and Do Together”
Do not force your child to do something that you do not do yourself. Nothing will come of it. Do you want your daughter to warm up in the morning? Start practicing yourself and invite her to join. Tested – works 100%. As they say, it is better to see once.
RULE 3. “Explain”
Why would a child regularly brush their teeth, wash their hands and clean the room? Because it is necessary and correct? No, the child does not understand this. To convince him, give an example of possible scenarios: “If you don’t wash your hands, you will get sick. If you get sick, you won’t be able to walk outside. If you cannot walk outside, you will be bored at home … “and so on.
Emphasize what is important to the child and what he can lose if he does not obey.
RULE 4. “Do not Rush”
A week has passed, and the new habit has not taken root? It’s okay – be patient. Scientists have proven that it takes at least 66 days to form and consolidate new habits. This is the average term. It all depends on the complexity of the process or task.
Introduce new habits slowly and discreetly so that the change does not cause stress and opposition in the child.
RULE 5. “Praise”
Praise and cheer your child up and notice their accomplishments. Cleaned his room – tell him that he is a great fellow, your assistant, and you are proud of him. It was not possible to tie the shoelaces on your own – help and tell me that in time everything will work out.
Be attentive to the child, and he will definitely try to please you more often.
RULE 6. “Choose the Moment”
Do not jerk your child and do not bother with your activities if he is playing. For a new activity, it is better to choose a moment when he is bored or does not know what to do. Then your idea is more likely to “go off with a bang.”
RULE 7. “No More Than 3 Habits at a Certain Point in Time”
You do not need to instill 10 new habits in your child at the same time, if you do not want to waste time. It is better to add one every week or move on to a new task when the previous ones have already taken root.
Special tools are needed to successfully plan and implement new habits. We suggest you try trackers. They help you move from words to deeds faster. It’s like a to-do list in a day planner. When you write it, it’s easier for you to plan, execute, and track progress.
What is a Habit Tracker?
This is a table consisting of mini-steps that the child takes on a daily basis. The advantage of a habit tracker is that your child can do their daily activities without you being prompted and learn to plan at the same time.
Lifehack! If you want your child to use the tracker, set an example. Make your own tracker and use it daily. In addition, this approach will charge all household members with a common idea of self-improvement and help unite the family in difficult times.
How to Do it?
Write on a separate sheet what habits and qualities you want to instill in your child. For example:
Then think over the rules!
Every 3-4 days we add one new habit, continuing to work on the previous ones.
Every day, when completing a task, for example, cleaning toys on their own, the child puts a checkmark or a cross in front of it.
Come up with a reward for the number of checkmarks. From 4 marks per week opposite the task in the tracker – the reward is set, less than 4 – no. From 25 ticks in 30 days – the right to receive a super prize of your choice, etc.
Make indulgences. For example, you can skip exercising on the weekend or skip any other day of the week, provided that the tasks are completed later.
Take stock and celebrate achievements. Has the child learned to stand on his head through daily exercise? Okay! Paint this day in red on the tracker and on the calendar, saying that now you have another reason to celebrate.
7.15 – A glass of water + charging;
7.25 – Cool shower;
10.00 – Snack fruit, nuts, etc.
11.00 – Cleaning the room – dusting, putting things in the closet, etc.
The main thing here is to make it comfortable for you and the children. Since the task of such calendars is not to do it perfectly, but to get the desired results – to become more organized and cohesive, it is guaranteed to fulfill our plans and bring up new qualities and habits.
At the same time, do not forget to talk to children more and explain everything to them. Start now and you will get into the habit of constantly changing for the better as a whole family. And the time spent at home will be remembered by you as the most interesting and productive period in your life.