Helping Children Learn Through Play


Playing is the most important job a child has and it plays a crucial role in their healthy development. It is important for parents to understand why play matters, how play develops, and what families can be doing at home to help their child get even more out of play.

Play is the method through which children learn about the world; develop their physical, social and language skills; foster imagination and creativity; build confidence; learn to problem-solve and so much more.

In fact, play has such a big impact on childhood development that, at Care Speech Pathology, we frequently assess a child’s play skills to find out if their language and social skills are also developing as they should be. Remember – play is an essential part of a happy and healthy childhood.

To help your child with their play at home, you first have to understand the “stages” of play.

There are six stages of play development in the early years and each of these is an important milestone for a child’s language and social development.

Here are the stages you need to know:

1) Unoccupied Play

Birth to 3 months

During this stage babies are moving their own bodies – particularly their arms, legs and head. This is how babies learn about how their body moves.

2) Solitary Play

Birth to 2 years

During the first couple of years of life children mostly play on their own, although they do become more aware of and engage with others around them. Initially, children’s play will be exploratory – that is, they explore the world by holding, touching, moving and mouthing objects. They later develop functional play, when toys are played with in the “right” way, e.g., shoveling sand into a bucket, rather than into their mouth!

3) Spectator Play

2 to 2.5 years

Children begin to become interested in the play of other children. However, they are usually watching from a distance at this stage and not yet ready to start joining in.

4) Parallel play

2.5 to 3 years

Children are playing a lot more closely together now, although are not yet playing with each other. Children in this stage have become very interested in what other children are doing.

5) Associative play

3 to 4 years

Children are now more interested in each other than they are in toys. They will play with each other, often sharing toys, however are not yet working together while playing.

6) Cooperative play

4 to 5 years

Children are now working together in their play. They are not only sharing toys, but also ideas, and are able to follow agreed rules in a game.

Then, you have to understand the “types” of play:

There a three main types of play: functional play, constructive play and pretend play, and each of these has an important role in helping to develop a child’s communication.

  • Functional play – functional play grows from a child’s desire to understand the world around them. Initially, children push, bang and shake objects, before then using them in the way that is intended.
  • Construction play – this type of play requires a sequence of steps to be carried out to achieve a goal. To be successful at this type of play, children need to be able to plan ahead. Block towers, painting pictures and making playdough sculptures are all examples of construction play.
  • Pretend play – this type of play is most closely linked to language development. It requires children to use their imagination and pretend actions to symbolise real things. This ability to symbolise is crucial to the learning of language, because words are also a symbol of real things. Initially, children learn to symbolise individual actions, for example, talking on a toy phone. Later, they develop the ability to act out sequences, original stories and eventually include language and other children in their play.

Now you’re ready to help your child develop their play skills at home. So, what do you need to do?

Playing with your child is a great way to foster their development in all areas. Here are some tips for helping your child’s development with play.

  • People games – children in the solitary play stage benefit from ‘people games’. These games require only yourself and your child, are easy to play, and require no special equipment. Games such as peek-a-boo, tickles and chasing are all examples of people games. These people games encourage interaction and turn taking.


  • People toys – similar to ‘people games’, the most important part of the toy is you! Toys such as bubbles, balloons and wind-up cars are all ‘people toys’, because very young children require an adult to help them. People toys are a bit trickier to understand than people games and can be introduced when a child is competent at playing people games. As well as encouraging interaction and turn taking, these games also foster joint attention, which is an important pre-requisite to language development.


  • Construction toys – offering and engaging with a variety of construction toys is a great way to help your child to learn to work towards a goal. Try offering a range of different experiences such as blocks, sand, water, playdough or clay, drawing or painting, and puzzles.


  • Pretend play toys – when a child understands symbolism, almost any item can become a pretend play toy. However, a variety of toys that can be used to ‘act out’ scenarios are useful for developing this type of play. Dolls and soft toys, dress ups, kitchen sets, doctors’ sets, cars and trains are just a few examples of toys that are great for pretend play.
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I am Jessica Moretti, mother of 1 boy and 2 beautiful twin angels, and live in on Burnaby Mountain in British Columbia. I started this blog to discuss issues on parenting, motherhood and to explore my own experiences as a parent. I hope to help you and inspire you through simple ideas for happier family life!


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